

You Can’t Play Both Sides of the Net.
Friction isn’t a sign your relationship is broken — it’s a sign two real people are in it. You don’t need less of it. You need to know your side of the court, hold your ground without losing yourself, and stop trying to win the point for both of you.

Kat Malickay
The Love Expert
Kat Malickay here: an open-minded, insightful, inspiring and direct RLT Certified Relationship & Couple Communication Coach.
Being RLT Certified means I’m trained in Terry Real’s method: direct, fast-moving work aimed at getting both of you back on level ground. I don’t referee from a distance. If you’re one-up — contemptuous, controlling, always right — you’ll hear it. If you’re one-down — shrinking, walking on eggshells — you’ll hear that too. Kindly, but directly.
Most conflict isn’t really a couple fighting. It’s two frightened versions of two people, each convinced they’re the only one keeping score fairly. My job is to help you catch the moment you switch from your grounded, wise self into the old, protective one — before that moment runs the whole relationship.
Clients typically see real movement in 3–6 months. Sessions are structured, honest, and occasionally uncomfortable — but never harsh.


How I Work:
Know your side. Learn to catch the moment you switch from your grounded adult self into old protective patterns — before the moment runs you.
Hold the line, not the grudge. Tolerating friction isn’t the same as tolerating disrespect. You’ll learn where that line actually is, and how to hold it without punishing.
Expect to be called out — kindly. I don’t sit back and stay neutral. If you’re one-up, you’ll hear it. If you’re one-down, you’ll hear that too. Directly, and always in service of you both.
Who is this for?
- Couples who keep having the same fight.
- Not because you don’t love each other — because neither of you has learned how to stay on your own side of the net.
- Partners where one of you has gone quiet, and the other’s gotten loud. One of you is one-up, one of you is one-down. Full-respect living starts with getting you both back on level ground.
- Couples recovering from a specific rupture — an affair, a betrayal, a moment that changed everything. You don’t need to pretend it didn’t happen. You need a structured way through it.
- Partners standing at a crossroads, weighing whether to stay or go. Not every relationship should be saved. This work helps you find real clarity either way.
- Individuals who keep ending up in the same relationship, just with a different name on it. Codependency, love addiction, low self-worth, a fear of commitment — patterns don’t change on their own.
- Anyone ready to stop trying to control their partner’s side of the court — and start mastering their own.

What Clients Say
“Kat is an amazing therapist-coach, she led us through a difficult process with attunement, great energy, equal support and challenge. She was always empathic and quickly helped us negotiate through. One of her main strengths is being human- really understanding feelings, emotions at the same time as treating us as individuals with a different set of needs and different readiness’ to engage. I must say she has enabled us see the bigger picture and dig deep into our different childhood experiences in a gentle way. Our relationship is stronger because of her and we will both be eternally grateful to her. She has also made us better at self reflection, personal boundaries and understanding how we communicate. I would recommend her whole heartedly and would encourage anyone who is struggling in relationships to see her.“
— Leanne C. ★★★★★
“Kat is amazing. Myself and my husband instantly felt comfortable talking with Kat. After one session we knew it was the right journey for us to get the help we needed. Fully recommend Love Molecules and Kat. She has helped us immensely already.”
— Debbie C. ★★★★★
“The results we have had from working with Kat in just a few sessions have been fantastic. Kat managed to pinpoint exactly what our main issues were within the first session, and provided us with advice and tools to start improving our situation straight away. We have worked with relationship counsellors in the past which haven’t made a difference, so we were reluctant to try again. But I’m so glad we did. Kat has a very different approach. She gets to the root of the problem very quickly, so that lasting change can take place. I would recommend Kat to anyone who needs a bit of helping hand with their relationship..”
— Karen G. ★★★★★
“Firstly, Kat is a very intelligent lady. I have vast experience with therapies and Kat is exceptional. She really knows what she is talking about. Such a warm and charming being. We felt relaxed and safe immediately. Kat really listened and heard us, digested the information and came back with clear answers and inspirational homework. She took on a huge amount of information in such a short space of time, she didn’t miss a thing. We highly recommend this Lady if you are serious about improving your life and relationships.”
— Aimie W. ★★★★★
“Kat has been pivotal in helping our relationship find its spark again. She has worked with different personalities and helped us find a common and understanding ground. Our communication is open again and working towards goals we had not even thought of. I would highly recommend Kat. She is very personable and easy to talk to which helps to deal with topics that would usually feel awkward or hard to talk about.“
— Stacey M. ★★★★★
“My husband and I contacted Kat in a bid to save our marriage and were terrified of having couples counselling because it’s so far out of our comfort zones. Six weeks into it, Kat has already helped us to inject new life into our relationship and is guiding us as we navigate and overcome some major issues, while highlighting changes we need to make as individuals. She leads the sessions (rather than being passive like many therapists are), pulls no punches, calls out bad behaviours and is direct but caring, which is exactly what we needed. Kat has shown that she is an expert at what she does and she quickly identified the issues and behaviours that were causing my husband and me to feel stuck in the past. I wish we’d found her years ago.”
— Sarah K. ★★★★★



